Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a specific type of domestic violence that refers to physical, verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse, as well as stalking, between intimate partners.

• Physical: Hitting, slapping, strangulation/choking, suffocating, biting, shoving, kicking, restraining, hair-pulling, or using weapons/objects to harm or intimidate.
• Sexual: Forced sexual activity, rape, coercion to engage in sexual activity, engaging in non-consensual sexual activity, or touching/grabbing in a sexual manner without consent.
• Emotional: Name calling, insults, controlling money/spending, keeping from working or household activities, isolating from friends/family, bullying, putting down, embarrassing in front of others, calling one “crazy” or “worthless”, controlling where one goes/who one sees/what on wears, controlling communications/taking one’s phone away or breaking it, monitoring who one talks to, and trying to manipulate one’s actions.
• Stalking: Knowing one’s daily schedule, showing up at places, sending mail/email/texts/pictures, calling/texting repeatedly, cyber-stalking, creating a website about the victim, sending unwanted gifts, GPS tracking via phone or car, gaining access to email or social networking accounts, use of intimidating force, or monitoring one’s online behavior or cell phone communications.

An intimate partner refers to anyone with whom one has an intimate relationship like a current or former spouse; boyfriend or girlfriend; and romantic, dating, or sexual partners. The relationship may not be sexually intimate or include living together.

As a group, Veterans are more likely to have had traumatic/stressful experiences that may increase their risk of experiencing and/or using aggression in their close relationships. Use of aggression has been found to be more in common among Veterans who have PTSD. Additionally, depression, substance misuse, and traumatic brain injury (TBI) may be risk factors for aggression in an intimate relationship.

IPV affects all relationships, straight and LGBTQ+, and can affect any age. LGBTQ+ Veterans experience IPV at similar or higher rate than the general populations; however, Women Veterans who identify as lesbian, bisexual, or questioning are two to three times more likely to report IPV than heterosexual Women Veterans. Additionally, older adults experience IPV which includes elder abuse.

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Find out more about the effects of IPV here.

Local & State Resources

🌈 A Community for Peace
A state certified trauma-informed social justice crisis center serving children and adult survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault.
☎ Crisis Line: (916) 728-7210
☎ LGBTQ+ Services: (916) 736-2443

California Partnership to End Domestic Violence
California’s recognized domestic violence coalition, representing over 1,000 advocates, organizations and allied groups throughout the state.
☎ National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
1-800-797-3224 (TTY)

Serves Asian and Pacific Islander and other underserved women and children impacted by domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking by providing a culturally appropriate and responsive safe haven, job training, and community services.
☎ 24-Hour Helpline: (916) 428-3271

Saint John’s Program for Real Change | COVID-19
Saint John’s vision is to break the cycle of poverty and homelessness one family at a time. By addressing the root causes of homelessness and poverty, it helps prevent the effects of these conditions from cycling into the next generation.
☎ Phone: (916) 453-1482

Solano Advocates for Victims of Violence (SAVV) | COVID-19
604 Empire Street, Fairfield, CA 94533
Solano Advocates for Victims of Violence (SAVV) was created to provide advocacy and supportive services to victims of violence. SAVV envisions a victim’s transformation into a survivor by inspiring hope, growth, and resiliency.
☎ 24/7 Hotline: (707) 820-7288

🌈 Stand Up Placer
11985 Heritage Oaks Place, Suite 200, Auburn, CA 95603
775 Sunrise Avenue, Suite 160, Roseville, CA 95661
A survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault is often afraid, embarrassed or ashamed to ask for help, or doesn’t know who to trust. If you or someone you know needs assistance, contact Stand Up Placer. Regardless of what you were wearing, whether or not you knew the person, if drugs or alcohol were involved or if you are heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or transgender, you are a survivor; you did not make the choice for this to happen. We know it’s hard to tell someone that you have been sexually assaulted or to break free of an abusive relationship. At Stand Up Placer our services are survivor driven. We provide options, resources, and referrals for survivors, and empower you to set goals and make the changes you want for your life. You will find an atmosphere free of judgment or agendas. We care about you and your family. We will not force you to make any choices that do not feel right for you. We firmly believe that everyone – woman, man, or child – deserves a life free from violence.
☎ 24-Hour Crisis Line: 1-800-575-5352
💬 Chat: Click Here

🌈 WEAVE | COVID-19
Programs and services for those impacted by domestic violence, sexual assault, and sex trafficking. Multilingual services for all relationships, all genders, all ages, all people, all of the time.
☎ 24/7 Support & Information Line: (916) 920-2952

VA Resources

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBYo5s5rp9M

Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) VHA Social Work
Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program (IPVAP)
The VA’s Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program (IPVAP) is committed to helping Veterans, their partners, and VA staff who are impacted by IPV. If you, or someone you know could be experiencing and/or using IPV – help is available.

• What is IPV?
  • Types of IPV
  • Prevalence
  • Effects of IPV
• Is IPV Affecting My Relationship?
• What Can I Do?
  • I’m Experiencing IPV
  • I’m at Risk of Using IPV
  • I’m Concerned About Someone Else

For more information or assistance, contact your local Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program, Primary Care Social Worker or other Provider. Women Veterans can also ask for the Women Veterans Program Manager.

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Additional Resources

🌈 FORGE
Resources About Intimate Partner Violence
Building strength and resilience in transgender communities.

🌈 Human Rights Campaign (HRC)
Sexual Assault and the LGBTQ Community

🌈 LGBT National Help Center
Serving the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning community by providing free & confidential peer-support and local resources.
☎ LGBT National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564
☎ LGBT National Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-7743
☎ LGBT National Senior Hotline: 1-888-234-7423
💬 Online Peer Support Chat: Click Here

🌈 Love Is Respect
The national resource to disrupt and prevent unhealthy relationships and intimate partner violence by empowering young people ages 13 to 26 through inclusive and equitable education, support, and resources.
☎ Phone: 1-866-331-9474
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
📱 Text LOVEIS to 22522
💬 Chat: Click Here

National Domestic Violence Hotline
P.O. Box 90249, Austin, TX 78709
24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year, the National Domestic Violence Hotline provides essential tools and support to help survivors of domestic violence so they can live their lives free of abuse. Contacts to The Hotline can expect highly-trained, expert advocates to offer free, confidential, and compassionate support, crisis intervention information, education, and referral services in over 200 languages.
☎ Phone: 1-800-799-7233
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
💬 Online Peer Support Chat: Click Here

🌈 Network/La Red
P.O. Box 6011, Boston, MA 02114
A survivor-led, social justice organization that works to end partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, SM, polyamorous, and queer communities. Rooted in anti-oppression principles, the Network aims to create a world where all people are free from oppression. They strengthen communities through organizing, education, and the provision of support services.
☎ 24-Hour Hotline: 1-800-832-1901
(617) 742-4911 (Voice)